My most recent relationship which lasted about six months ended in October. It was one of those endings that felt impending for a while because something just didn’t feel right, but it’s disappointing regardless. At the end of a relationship it’s so easy to start wondering what’s wrong with me, or victimize myself or turn my ex-boyfriend into an antagonist or “bad guy”, but those things are rarely helpful. Do any of us really know what to do after a breakup? I didn’t want to fall into the same traps of self-pity parties or the blaming game or even diving straight back into the dating apps— so instead dove deep into a “relationship autopsy” to figure out what happened, my role in it, and what I could do next time to make sure I don’t find myself in the same situation.